It’s been a while since I’ve posted about body image and, during that time, the conversation has only grown in mainstream media and blogging. The movement has helped many friends of mine come to grips with their own insecurities and perceptions of the way they look as well as helped educate people on where to go and who to talk to if you are struggling. However, much of this information relies on the idea that you are aware of your own body image issues and then want to address them.
So, what about those people who are struggling with the way they look but don’t recognise this behaviour as irregular? What if you’re subconsciously putting yourself down without understanding that that is what you’re doing? What if you’ve been living like this for you’re whole life and without ever being aware that you might be hurting your own confidence? Today, I wanted to talk through some common behaviours I’ve seen/heard about when discussing negative body image to help you identify the actions that lead to low body confidence. View Post
“Nice guys finish last” is a common trope heard from men complaining that many people they desire go for “bad boys” or men who don’t treat their partners properly. However, one of the main issues with this attitude is the suggestion that a man is only being a “nice guy” for his own gain – usually romantic. What this phrase is actually trying to do is to encourage empathy for men who attempt to be nice for personal gain, whilst condemning the recipient of this “nice” behaviour for not appreciating it. Today I want to talk about why you shouldn’t be a nice guy, should instead aspire to be a good guy and why ensuring there is a clear distinction between each of these is important. View Post
We are our harshest critics, especially when left alone with our own thoughts…
There are those moments when you first stand in front of a mirror and immediately cast a cynical eye over your body. Your mind races to areas you feel insecure about and your negative internal monologue kicks off.
“This doesn’t look toned enough.”
“I wish there were fewer blemishes here.”
“I hate the way that looks.”
It’s incredibly easy to find yourself in a shame spiral, sinking into your own self-doubt and fear, which ultimately leads to you developing an inaccurate perspective about the way you look. Everyone goes through this, for some it’s a daily struggle and for others it’s a less regular occurrence. Either way it has a massive impact on your confidence and how you hold yourself. Today, I want to talk about 5 methods to help stop these thoughts in their tracks and prevent a negative body-image mentality from taking hold of you. View Post
In late February my brothers, our respective partners and I all packed up and set off for Mexico on a 2 week adventure/holiday around the Yucatan Peninsula. After years of planning, saving and excitement we left Heathrow with snow falling and 6 degrees celsius to set off for the warmer climates of the Caribbean. Throughout our stay we travelled to Merida, Progresso, Pisté, Chichen Itza and Akumal, 5 vastly different areas of the Yucatan but each with their own charm. View Post
For those of you who hadn’t guessed from the title, this is a topic that is somewhat close to my heart and one that I’m prone to rant about. My life is based in the digital world, I absorb news through it, I share my views on it and my career is inextricably linked with the evolution of technology and the internet. I am, by almost every definition, a millennial. Born between 1984 and 1992, lovers of technology, entrepreneurial and generally disruptive to the established order due to their beliefs and perspectives.
What angers me, however, is that mainstream media is treating millennials as if we are a group of petulant children refusing to work or contribute to any facet of modern society. For just a small perspective on this attitude you can see a list of Business Insider’s articles about what industries millenials are “killing”, from golf to light yoghurt, napkins and (apparently) vacations. The media are constantly pushing this narrative of the rude hipster in glasses and an ironic shirt tweeting their lives away whilst society crumbles around them… View Post